@james I still haven't got to the point where I can confidently wear abdl/thicker brands out and about. Plain, clothbacked thin ones sure.
@NewfieDL it takes a while but you get over it eventually. I have been out before with non-ABDL friends who know I wear but they didn't have a clue I was wearing until I told them. So if people who know you wear don't even realise, I doubt anyone else would